How to unfuck your life

A month ago, I was surfing on friends couches, separating from the love of my life, broke, debt collectors calling me, and supporting my dog. I experienced food scarcity, not always knowing where I would sleep that night, and even had lice in my hair.

Then I discovered an inner peace and happiness that began to shine in me while this was happening.

And the peace and happiness allowed me to see how to close business deals more easily, make sales without neediness, and transform the outer conditions of my life. Now my dog is happy, I’ve got my own car, I live in a beautiful area, and experience love and harmony in my relationships.

If you follow this guide, I guarantee you will find peace and happiness, and that will allow you to see solutions you can’t see right now.

What does it mean for life to be fucked?

Life is just this present moment. We might think about past and future, but those are just thoughts.

What actually is "this present moment"?

It's just the thoughts you're having, the feelings in your body, and the sense impressions (sights/sounds/tastes/smells) you're experiencing.

This is all that exists.

If you don’t believe me, point to anything that is not a thought, feeling, sight/sound/smell/taste.

Thinking about something you can’t point to does not count.

So what?

This means if you can learn to stop thinking and feeling negatively about your life, you will become free to create new and better situations for yourself and others.

You are the awareness that knows your thoughts, feelings and sense impressions.

Most people are completely entangled in the thoughts and feelings they have. They allow themselves to be completely identified with whatever thought is currently in their mind and allow it to run their life.

Let’s disentangle ourselves instead and see what happens.

Step 1/8Stabilize your immediate environment

If you're in an immediate emergency, or you're not somewhere where you can rest for at least a day or a few days, although it's not ultimately necessary, it's probably going to be helpful to stabilize your living situation.

This might mean asking a friend for a favor, or to prolong a favor for a few more days to buy yourself enough time.

Just do the best you can. Doesn't need to be perfect, but giving yourself a little bit of stability in order to complete these steps is going to be very helpful.

Step 2/8Slow your thought stream down

If your mind is busy, begin by moving your attention from your thoughts to the sensation of breathing.

Watch this breathing meditation before continuing.

Step 3/8Watch your thoughts without participating in them

Once your thoughts have slowed to no more than one every few seconds, watch them without joining in.

The aim is to step back and notice thoughts as something you can observe.

As you watch, your mind begins to ease. If your thoughts move quickly, this may take practice.

This step is complete when you can honestly say:

“Yes, I am aware of my thoughts. I can see them happening without being carried along.”

Step 4/8Become aware of the feelings in your body

The next step is to become aware of the feelings you're currently having in your body.

Step 5/8Become aware of thoughts, feelings, and sights at the same time

The next step is to become aware of thoughts and feelings, as well as your visual scene, at the same time.

Step 6/8Observe awareness

Look at what knows your thoughts, feelings, sights and sounds.

Step 7/8Habitually return to peace and ease

The steps that follow from this point are to habitually and continually return to this peace and ease.

Because our long-standing habit as humans is to rush back out into thoughts, feelings, the beliefs we have about the world, and to, in fact, go right back to spending 99.9% of our time in that mode, it is going to take some genuine dedication to reversing that habit.

Step 8/8Revisit troubling thoughts and feelings from awareness

The next step is to go touch a particularly negative thought or feeling that is troubling you. For example, a feeling about what is happening in your life right now.

Notice how quickly it tries to engulf and pull you back into total identification.

That is not a problem.

Simply watch what is happening in your experience. Notice that it's still true that there are only thoughts, feelings, sights, and sounds, and when you're ready, return to the experience of peace.

You return to the experience of peace by watching, by noting characteristics that are true about awareness of thoughts, feelings, sights, and sounds.